Guiding Principles For A Happy Family

My Guiding Principles For A Happy Family

When trying to reorganise files from back ups onto my new computer, I came across a document that I created a number of years ago which outlines some guiding principles that I had collated. These were principles that I felt should make family life happier and contain less conflict.

It is funny how the timing of things work and I think that I really needed to read this again. I may have veered slightly to the left or right of some of these principles! The important thing also is that although I created this, they are not just for me, they are for a guide for all family members. The relevance to each family member will differ according to their age, but they still need to be incorporated into their behaviour.

  1. Listen attentively to others.
  2. Look for the solution, not the culprit.
  3. Patience – role model the behaviour I want to see.
  4. Be kind to me and consider my own needs.
  5. There are no “have tos” or “should“ I have a choice.
  6. It is ok to say no.
  7. There is no need to make comparisons.
  8. Make time for play.
  9. Give the children (and adults!) some space and independence.
  10. 5:1 ratio of positive to negative comments.

I have printed out these principles and stuck it on my fridge. I want to have it somewhere highly visible, to remind me and the rest of the family how important it is that we use these guiding principles to help create a happier family.

You can download a PDF version of the principles  to print if you like by clicking  on the image below:

Guiding Principles For A Happy Family

What is a guiding principle that you like your family to live by?