In my last post on Time Management For Parents I noted that spending time with children teaching them to do things themselves is a great way to free up more time for yourself in the longer term and increase independence and self confidence in your children.
These tasks need to be age appropriate and one which I am working on at the moment with my children is encouraging them to dress themselves. Educational consultant Kathy Walker makes the following recommendations on what ages children should be dressing themselves:
Children are able to start dressing themselves from about 2 and a half to 3 years of age. It may be as simple as pulling on a sock or jacket. Giving them practise is useful without it having to become a regimented ordeal for the child. By 4 or 5 years of age, children can be expected to be able to dress themselves but may still require help with buttons and zips etc. Children are not expected to tie shoelaces until about 6 or 7 years of age.
Babaganouski is 3 in a few months and I am trying to encourage and develop his ability to dress himself. We have mastered jocks and pants so far and we have now started working on t-shirts. From previous experience with my other children, I have found the following steps help make this process easier:
The children need to be able to access their clothes themselves. Drawers can often get messy quickly with little hands ruffling through them, so I use boxes to divide clothes into groups and make it easier for the children to find what they are looking for (as pictured above). I have written more about this in my post on Reorganising The Children’s Drawers And Wardrobes.
(2). Limit Choice
To much choice for a two year old can make the decision of what to wear go on for ages! By limiting the number of clothes in their drawers / wardrobe it aids them be able to come to a quicker decision. The choice available also needs to be weather appropriate. If a child has a favourite pair of shorts, then they are likely to choose them to wear regardless if it is freezing outside.
Ensure that they have plenty of time to dress themselves and that you are not hovering over them and trying to hurry them up.
(4). Limit The Learning Focus
I have found it helps the children if we focus on one area at a time of dressing themselves. As noted the first thing I have focused on with my two year old, is his underwear and pants. It builds their confidence to achieve success with one item, before moving on to the next. It can be quite overwhelming to a child to expect them to do everything themselves at once.
(5). Recognise The Process
It can be tempting when a child learning to dress themselves comes out with a t-shirt on back the front or with a shirt button missed, to go straight to them and fix it up or explain to them that they need to fix it up. By this being the first thing we say to them, it can be very discouraging for a chid.
It is important to acknowledge the fact that they have tried to dress themselves and managed to get the relevant articles of clothing on their body. I am not talking about gushing empty praise on the child, as I think that is counter productive (for more info on the inverse power of praise you can see my post on Ways To Encourage Your Child). But acknowledging the fact that the process they followed – choosing clothes, applying themselves to get the item on, persisting with small finger movements to do up their buttons etc.
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