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I am taking an online holiday until Monday 16th January. Over the next couple of weeks, I have scheduled posts, tweets and facebook updates. Orders for the book will be fulfilled, but other than that, you won’t see me about!
2011 has been an amazing year for me, but I very much need some rest! Thank you for being part of the Planning With Kids journey, I feel very privileged to have such wonderful readers. I hope you have a fabulous Christmas and 2012 gets off to a fantastic start!
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Christmas Day is such an exciting time for kids. In my early years of parenting I tried to keep all my usual rules and routines in place on Christmas Day. This would either see me pulling my hair out, as I found it impossible to get the kids to follow their normal routines, or the little ones crying because they were unhappy about having to do things they didn’t want to. Most often it was a combination of both.
Five years down the track I grew a little wiser. Christmas is one very special day of the year and for the family to enjoy it as much as possible, I needed to relax everything a little and take a different approach to the day. Here’s how we celebrate Christmas now.
Include time for resting
It’s possible for us to have every weekend fully booked in the lead-up to Christmas. This takes its toll not only on me, but the kids as well. I’ve started booking time out on the calendar for the family before Christmas to rest and catch our breath. Running into Christmas Day being tired reduces my ability to cope with the challenges a large family celebration can — and very often does — throw my way.
Discuss Christmas Day
We have a chat with the kids a couple of days before Christmas about how the day will go. We talk to them about where we’re going, what we’re doing, who will be there and our expectations of the kids.
Allow yourself time to enjoy the day
I try to remember Christmas is a family event and allow others to help in the preparation. This is another bonus to advance planning: I can easily delegate tasks to others earlier so I know they’re taken care of. As it gets closer, I can involve my husband and kids. Even if they can’t help with the cooking, they can help with things such as cleaning and gift wrapping. Two jobs I always delegate to my husband are:
- checking there are enough drinks. Make sure there are enough alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks for everyone and that we have the facilities for keeping them cool. We only have one fridge, so this generally means filling an esky with ice the night before. With the drinks out of the fridge, I have space to store more pre-prepared food.
- checking the electronics. Make sure the video and still cameras are charged and have plenty of memory. We always take heaps of footage and photos throughout the day, so it’s great to have them ready to go the night before.
Invoke the Christmas Day rule
On Christmas Day the kids can eat anything they want, when they want and for the entire day. My family love to have lots of treats on Christmas Day and it had become tiresome to keep track of what the kids were eating. It surprised me how restrained the kids can be. They also know Boxing Day is detox day and that it’s back to healthy eating again.
Be flexible with routines
It can be incredibly difficult to take a toddler away from family, toys and food for an afternoon nap. In recent years, I’ve let the toddler fall asleep on my lap as I sit and talk with family. Or, other times, I’ve let them keep going and put them to bed an hour or two earlier at the end of the day. Either way, increasing my flexibility increased the enjoyment of the day for both of us.
How do you approach Christmas Day with kids?
{image – my daughter made this Christmas tree at her after school clay class – I love it!}