10 Things To Cherish About Having A Young Family

Joys Of A  Young Family

Joys Of A  Young Family

Towards the end of June, just before school holidays started, I had one of those very tough weeks that comes with the territory of life with a young family. Some of the highlights of that week included: having my blog hacked which diverted readers from Google to a porn site (sorry if that happened to you), sleep deprivation caused by baby with a cold that was waking from coughing so much, me forgetting important appointments and confusing times for the boys football matches.

The positive from having such a horrible week, was that I really appreciated the next week, which wasn’t perfect but it was just so much better! It also made me think about what life is like with little children and I realised that without a doubt there will come a time when I miss this stage of my family’s life. For all the hard work involved with parenting young children, the joys are really so immense. It wasn’t hard to whip up a list of things that I cherish about having a young family.

1. Excitement In The Small Things

I have a three year old boy and on our walks to and from school, I love how excited he gets over the small things in our environment. Like when we see a digger working on a building site, or a train at the crossing or how he runs ahead so it is he who gets to push the button at the traffic lights. (That button pushing is second though to pushing a elevator button, which is always a cause of great jubilation!)

2. Holding My Hand

My two older boys (10 and 8 ) will no longer hold my hand, but I still have little ones that will happily hold my hand. I love walking along, talking with them and holding their hand. It gives me such a sense of connectedness.

3. The Warmth Of A Freshly Woken Child

When my kids wake up, they seek me out and we have a cuddle. I adore the warmth that radiates from their little bodies when they have just woken up. I am not 100% sure, but I don’t think my adolescent boys will really be into cuddling me first thing in the morning!

4. The Company

Although I think that I am busy now with after school activities and children’s social lives etc, I know that this will certainly take on a different angle when they are in secondary school. I enjoy the kids company and know that as they need to and begin to move further away from me and out into the wider world, I will miss having them around me as much as I do now.

5. The Ability To Make Things Better With A Kiss

Now if the kids fall over and hurt themselves or if something happens and their feelings get hurt, a kiss and hug from mum can make things better. As they get older and begin to experience emotional turmoil, there will be times that I know there will be nothing that I can do to make things better. Being let down by friends, first heart break etc will be experiences that they will have to go through and although I can be there for them, I will no longer be able to fix it all with a kiss.

6. They Laugh At My Jokes!

I can remember going through a stage and then seeing my sisters do the same, where you think your parents are very unfunny and sometimes down right embarrassing! Right now, my kids find me pretty funny, it will be sad to see that go.

7. They Want Me To Sing To Them

I am a terrible singer, but my 3 and 5 year old still love me to sing them a couple of nursery rhymes after their story each night. They sing along with me and it is a nice way to bond with them before they go to sleep. Eventually like their older siblings, they will stop wanting me to do this.

8. Their Honesty

The younger four at least have yet to learn the subtle art of diplomacy. So if I am wearing a new outfit and it is not to their liking, it is not uncommon for them to laugh or look aghast! Our eldest child is now a bit more savvy about what to say and will say something like “It is okay, but I wouldn’t wear anything like that.”
My three year old is also great for alerting me any blemish that I may have on my face, “What’s that big thing on your nose mum?”

9. We Can All Squish Into Our Bed

On the very rare mornings when there is nowhere to be at by a certain time, we can often have all the kids come into our bed in the morning before we eat breakfast. Albeit this involves top and tail action, but it won’t be long before even with this we won’t all fit in our queen size bed.

10. Breastfeeding

I have breastfed all my children until they were over 12 months old. When I stop breastfeeding for the last time, I know it will be something that I will miss. In particular the last feed of the day, when the baby drifts off to sleep on the breast. There is something so lovely about looking down into your little ones eyes as they begin to flutter and you see their absolute contentment.

I would love to hear what you cherish about your family in the comments!


  1. says

    All lovely things to cherish and hold onto in the tough weeks! I can relate particularly to your 1, 4-8 and 10 ;-) Other things I enjoy about having young children in particular include:

    1. Getting to see the world through fresh eyes and learn new things as their interests impel you to – Especially with my 4-year-old, who is insatiably curious, I have greatly enjoyed many voyages of discovery at the library, the computer and talking to other people, and I’ve learned about all sorts of things I never would have without her enthusiasm to guide me.

    2. The way it brings you into a community of parents / carers – I have been astonished to find this whole “other world” exists, which can be incredibly mutually supportive. I’ve been led to believe it dissipates as the kids get older,which is, I think, a shame.

    3. The cuddles – Is there anything sweeter than a cuddle and chat with a 6-year-old after school, or a 4-year-old who’s a bit sleepy, or a gorgeous giggling baby?

    4. Reading aloud – I love to read, and reading aloud to my girls (who likewise love it) has been one of the deepest pleasures of the past 6 years for me. Introducing them to all the stories I loved as a child has been wonderful and I’ve enjoyed it as much as they.

  2. says

    These have been all the things that I have been thinking about recently. Even though I look forward to the next “stage” our family is going into it miss things already.
    I have even started to sell off all the baby items :(
    Although it all does have me questioning weither or not #4 really is our last or not?!

  3. PlanningQueen says

    Tiff – You are in such a difficult position. My prayers that Ivy gets well soon.

    Catherine – Great point. Not everyone has the opportunity to stay home if they want to. I feel lucky that I have been able to.

    Kathy – They do allow you to see things differently. They take things on face value so much more than we do and it allows you to be more open to possibilities.

    Sharon – I think I will find selling off baby items a very tough thing to do.

    Steff – Kids do bring such a fresh, positive attitude to each day.

  4. says

    What a beautiful post, this brought tears to my eyes!
    I especially love how excited my little one gets about simple day to day things.
    And how he claps his chubby little hands and grins up at me when he is particulary pleased with something.

  5. says

    It is sooo hard selling them off. I have been ebaying them and not everything gets on there though. Its hard to know what to keep too.

  6. says

    You are so right. This is an excellent, comprehensive list.

    I am currently “losing” many of these as my oldest gets right into the “don’t embarass me, mom” phase. (at her younger sister’s birthday party, I received explicit instructions not to kiss dad. Younger sister & all guests didn’t care a fig…)

    It makes me appreciate the youngers’ fleeting moments more, but also drives me to be more creative in finding more private special moments with her (I can still make her giggle at my silliness, so long as there’s no one else around for her to be embarassed to!)

    harmzies last blog post..10/07/02 12:45 – 7#7 – XX

  7. says

    Yes indeed, cherish is the word! I am rediscovering these joys on a part time basis and it is bliss… except no 10 of course but I have fond memories of my time with my now grown children. You are blessed to recognise and have gratitude for these things. I think I was in too much of a rush with my own children sometimes and I feel it was a waste. I have discussed it with my daughter and we have laughed about it… but when I reflect back I think… what was the rush!
    PS: Adolescent boys do still give great hugs.

    Johs last blog post..The Art of Trust by Lee Jampolsky

  8. says

    What a lovely post – thanks for sharing. I agree with so many of them.
    I most cherish that my young children are taking me on their journey and we are all learning so much together. I think our kids have given me more personal growth than anything ever before in my life.
    I also cherish being able to stay home with them and am so thankful we are in the position to do this.
    The other thing I cherish is the smell of young children. One sniff of my littles and I’m gone. If only I could bottle it!

    Sandras last blog post..Tommee Tippee Giveaway

  9. says

    The best is when they come up to you unexpected and take your hand and say “I love you mama.” Then you can’t help but scoop them up and squeeze them and say ” I love you too baby.”

    Ranas last blog post..Quiet Time!

  10. says

    Totally with you on all of these.. especially the last one. My baby boy weaned himself way too soon and I miss it… but on the nights when I am cursing having to lay with him to get him to sleep I remember how much I miss feeding him and appreciate that he still needs me a little bit more than I did.

  11. says


    I think each stage brings it’s own things to cherish. Right now I’m loving the humour I share with my teen girls and the inquisitiveness of my 10 year old.

    Mistress Bs last blog post..Klutz Central

  12. PlanningQueen says

    Thanks everyone for your lovely words. It reinforces to me that I need to make sure that I enjoy the here and now!

  13. Cookiemother says

    well, I’m brand new here & have only read about 3 posts, but this one made me cry… I’m having moments of not enjoying parenting, and they’re too frequent for my liking, thank you for reminding me of the positives in the world I live in. Your circuit breakers rock, thank you for sharing!

  14. says

    Cookiemother – Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. I think most of us mother go through stages where we find parenting tough, I know I certainly have. Glad you found the circuit breakers useful! Hope this week has started well for you.