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Mon, 24 Mar 2008 05:45:22 +0000

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By: Jane

Jane — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 00:41:00 +0000

I already get told I’m mean by Miss7, and just ask her ‘how else do you expect me to have fun?’

Seriously though, I think there are waaayyy to many parents out there who try to be friends with their kids. That’s what they have *friends* for! Sheesh!

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By: PreSchool Mama

PreSchool Mama — Tue, 18 Mar 2008 19:49:14 +0000

I've struggled with the mean mom tag and recently came to the conclusion that i would prefer being a mean mom. I think there is a lot of pressure on parents to be their children's best friend. I don't think kids need you to be their best friend, they need you to be their parent. PreSchool Mama's last blog post..Get Your Preschooler Thinking With These Problem Solving Activities

By: Cath

Cath — Mon, 17 Mar 2008 22:43:52 +0000

As the product of a too narrow river – I love this analogy. I managed to survive but I do sometimes wonder how. I’m also some time off having to deal with the teenage years but I do have to work on setting boundaries even for my 2 and 3.5 yr olds. (after years of leaving the boudaries way behind in the dust, I’m finding I have to get to know them again – on the other side of the fence!!)

One of the things I do (which is probably easier now given no one is at school yet) is try to steer clear of the mass market – wiggles, brats, princesses, etc I can’t bubble the kids but I can keep their options open and let them develop interest in things other than what everyone else is doing. Sometimes I feel a bit like a mean mum but I hope this will set the foundations for them to be able to walk their own path and not be suffocated by outside pressures. I’m hoping to build their confidence in their own abilty to keep themselves safe. It’s a long way for us to go but hopefully we can find the balance of awareness of popular culture without having to submit to it and the dangers of wanting to do what everyone else is doing…

As always, thanks for the post and thanks to everyone for their insights. I had a mean mum too but imagine that – she just might have been on the right track…

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Mon, 17 Mar 2008 00:06:23 +0000

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By: Lars

Lars — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 12:05:03 +0000

The sentiment in this site is spot on. In particular the analogy to parenting as a river. Bring the banks in and the child moves fast (probably too fast), give them some breadth and the pace is slow and without direction.

When I look at my parenting style over this last weekend, this analogy hits the mark. The river was set too wide and very little achieved. At times when I narrowed it I did so very quickly. The children weren’t ready for it.

I would be interested in any follow up ideas about how to move the banks gradually.

By: PlanningQueen

PlanningQueen — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 08:45:26 +0000

Thank you for all the considered and thought provoking feedback. It is quite comforting to know that I am not the only “mean mum” and that other parents also value highly the safety of their children.

Megan, thanks for directing us to the Parent Sense download. I am going to make time over the holidays to go through it.